Which is something that I see as a fundamental flaw in most cultures - even mine. If my husband's parents can live with us and raise our kids, why can't mine? Are they not good/smart/knowledgeable enough? If my husband needs his parents around him, why can't I also have my parents around?
What is good for the goose should also be good for the gander, no? But our society is set up in such a way that the bride's parents are often relegated. I don't think that's fair. It all stems from the fact that females are generally second citizens in Africa (not sure if it's the same in India and Asia generally?).
Heck, there's a saying in my culture that someone with only girl children might as well not have any child at all! Makes me so sad.
Indian/Pakistani society is the most patriarchal society perhaps next to only Arabs. The practices are driven by religious beliefs which people from that region take very seriously.
If I was reborn and had a chance to choose my gender I would 100% opt for being a male. Not because I am trans or anything, I just want to enjoy the privileges that men do even in western societies. We are equal in terms of law but not 100% equal from a cultural perspective even though serious progression has been made in the past decades.
. Why fix it if it ain't broken?
