either way i wish there are no kids who'll go shooting people randomly, oh yes the result of western parenting and family life.
maybe i have seen only the worst so i am always leaning to the middle ground. not gonna lean to the east or west.
what i like about the west- Terrain
what i like about the east- Elements of zen
what i like about the north- Aurora
what i like about the south- Tropical climate
I'm getting the vibes you think you need to justify your points to me - please understand that you don't. I respect your opinion, and I am not having this discussion to try to change your mind or point out the "wrongness" in your opinion. I was just giving my perspective (as someone who is outside of your culture and certainly do not understand/appreciate it).
If it sounded like I was coming at you for your cultural stance, please know that was not my intention at all .
Which is something that I see as a fundamental flaw in most cultures - even mine. If my husband's parents can live with us and raise our kids, why can't mine? Are they not good/smart/knowledgeable enough? If my husband needs his parents around him, why can't I also have my parents around?
What is good for the goose should also be good for the gander, no? But our society is set up in such a way that the bride's parents are often relegated. I don't think that's fair. It all stems from the fact that females are generally second citizens in Africa (not sure if it's the same in India and Asia generally?).
Heck, there's a saying in my culture that someone with only girl children might as well not have any child at all! Makes me so sad.
I am glad that as a woman I was born here (west from a cultural perspective) because if I had to born again I probably wouldn't have this much luck. I am happy that i don't have to do everything by myself at home, we split housework. If I want to leave I can leave whenever I want. (the good thing is that I don't want to leave I stay with him because I want to)
I'm glad too. I was not born in the western world, but I am privileged to have been raised in an African home where culture is strong, but we were all treated as equals regardless of what happens to be between our legs. I was lucky to also marry someone with similar upbringing, particularly in the area of shared chores and decision making .
Which is something that I see as a fundamental flaw in most cultures - even mine. If my husband's parents can live with us and raise our kids, why can't mine? Are they not good/smart/knowledgeable enough? If my husband needs his parents around him, why can't I also have my parents around?
What is good for the goose should also be good for the gander, no? But our society is set up in such a way that the bride's parents are often relegated. I don't think that's fair. It all stems from the fact that females are generally second citizens in Africa (not sure if it's the same in India and Asia generally?).
Heck, there's a saying in my culture that someone with only girl children might as well not have any child at all! Makes me so sad.
If I was reborn and had a chance to choose my gender I would 100% opt for being a male. Not because I am trans or anything, I just want to enjoy the privileges that men do even in western societies. We are equal in terms of law but not 100% equal from a cultural perspective even though serious progression has been made in the past decades.
If I was reborn and had a chance to choose my gender I would 100% opt for being a male. Not because I am trans or anything, I just want to enjoy the privileges that men do even in western societies. We are equal in terms of law but not 100% equal from a cultural perspective even though serious progression has been made in the past decades.
If I was reborn and had a chance to choose my gender I would 100% opt for being a male. Not because I am trans or anything, I just want to enjoy the privileges that men do even in western societies. We are equal in terms of law but not 100% equal from a cultural perspective even though serious progression has been made in the past decades.
Which is something that I see as a fundamental flaw in most cultures - even mine. If my husband's parents can live with us and raise our kids, why can't mine? Are they not good/smart/knowledgeable enough? If my husband needs his parents around him, why can't I also have my parents around?
A hell lot of this have to do with patriarchal setup that has existed for long... That being said, a lot of "bugs" are getting fixed starting from dowry, inheritance laws etc.
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