Where I can report domestic violence & bid to extort money by my wife (sponsor)

[robyaqua]

Hi Friends,

My wife sponsored me to Canada after our marriage ceremony. A year later I landed in Vancouver on 6th Feb 2013. I stayed there with her for 1 month and then I went back to join my office in India. My company sent me to Dallas (USA) on 10th March 2013. I requested my company in June/July 2013 to move me Canada location if there is any vacancy. My company transferred me to Toronto in the month of August. Since then my wife (living in Vancouver) became even more abusive and volatile to the extent that I went back to USA. She started asking me to deposit 100,000 CAD in her account as security deposit or promise her to pay for all the household expenses, buy a house, a car and to support her parents in India financially. She said that she will save all her money and won't contribute even a single penny in household expenses. When I refused and reached out to her uncle and parents about this they told me that she doesn't want to live with you until her demands are met.

Listening this I got so disturbed that I resigned from my job and returned to USA and joined a new company. She even started calling my new boss who used to be my ex-colleague.

In 2014, she along with her parents filed false cases against me and my family (staying in India) of Domestic Violence and Dowry to extort money from us.

Please guide me where and which Canadian authority should I report this incident of sponsor trying to extort money in the name of matrimony.

Regards,
Roby

 

[scylla]

At this point this really isn't an immigration matter - it's a family law matter. You should engage a good family law lawyer in Canada to represent you.

 

[scylla]

Just to add - I would avoid drawing attention to yourself and your relationship from an immigration perspective. You immigrated through spousal sponsorship and effectively haven't lived with your wife since then. On paper, it looks like your relationship wasn't genuine and you used your wife to gain an immigration benefit in Canada.

 

[TANMEX]

Just to add - I would avoid drawing attention to yourself and your relationship from an immigration perspective. You immigrated through spousal sponsorship and effectively haven't lived with your wife since then. On paper, it looks like your relationship wasn't genuine and you used your wife to gain an immigration benefit in Canada.

Agree with Scylla , this wolf trying to represent himself as a sheep .

 

[Rob_TO]

Friends, Thats exactly she is trying to portray.

I have documented proofs to show that how much efforts I made to live with my wife. As per her wishes I took a job before moving to Canada. She shared her apprehension before our marriage that people from India land in Canada and then they don't work. So to address those unfounded apprehensions of her I told her that I won't move to Canada till I get a job. I took a job asking my company to transfer from US. In real terms I took a paycut due to higher taxes and higher cost of living if compared to US.

And how one can cope with the fact when you wife says that she (who is in Vancouver) will only start living if her demands are met. Hers was a transferrable job and unfortunately my previous company has a presence in Toronto area that to no more than 20 people out of 5000+ workforce globally.

Only to join my wife I pleaded and requested my managing directors, country head and HR heads to get the transfer to Canada. Else I was happy in US as well as in India.

Is there any authority in Canada whom I can share my situation and seek help?

This is not really an immigration issue, it's more a family law and possible criminal case. I would suggest to talk to a lawyer.

The only immigration issue I see is that you may run into residency obligation issues depending how long you're working in the US, which could end up with your PR status being revoked if you don't meet 2 years out of 5 residing in Canada.

 

[mikeymyke]

To be honest, I find there are quite a number of faults regarding your situation:

You've been having problems with your wife since 2013, which is almost 3 years ago. During that time, you've always seemed more interested in working outside of Canada rather than inside. When you got your PR card, you went to Canada for a month, and then you went back to India. Don't know why you did that, as it appears you're not interested in living here. You kept complaining about how hard it is to find a job in Canada while in India, yet my question to you is, why weren't you trying to find a job in Canada while you were IN Canada? You came here, then you went back home. From 2013 till now, you've even contemplated going on welfare if you can't find a job in Canada. My question to you is, why not do some simple jobs until you end up with the one you want? Welfare payments are ridiculously low. Vancouver and Toronto have lots of jobs.

Also from 2013 till now, you keep asking about how to divorce and whether or not you get to keep your PR card. Then you also said that your wife complained that you're just marrying her for PR. Well is that true or not? You did try to immigrate here once as a skilled worker. You kept talking about divorce and worrying about whether you can keep your PR status. And you keep having marital issues for 3 years, yet not divorcing because you were worried about your PR status.

From the surface it does sound like your wife is a bit of a control freak and emotionally unstable, but at the same time, don't you feel maybe you're part of the reason as well? Because imagine how tough it must be for your wife when her husband only lived with her for a total of 40 days out of 3 years, and instead of staying in Canada to confront their marital issues, the husband instead just chickens out and runs away to the US. It's enough to piss off any spouse.

Also you have another issue and that is you may possibly have not met the permanent residency requirements, thus your PR might be revoked anyway. I noticed in these two posts you seem not so worried about losing your PR now, rather you're now concerned as to how to report your wife to the authorities, because you feel you've managed to secure your own PR right? Well not so fast, because unless you have lived in Canada at least 2 out of 5 years, your PR will be revoked.

 

[TANMEX]

To be honest, I find there are quite a number of faults regarding your situation:

You've been having problems with your wife since 2013, which is almost 3 years ago. During that time, you've always seemed more interested in working outside of Canada rather than inside. When you got your PR card, you went to Canada for a month, and then you went back to India. Don't know why you did that, as it appears you're not interested in living here. You kept complaining about how hard it is to find a job in Canada while in India, yet my question to you is, why weren't you trying to find a job in Canada while you were IN Canada? You came here, then you went back home. From 2013 till now, you've even contemplated going on welfare if you can't find a job in Canada. My question to you is, why not do some simple jobs until you end up with the one you want? Welfare payments are ridiculously low. Vancouver and Toronto have lots of jobs.

Also from 2013 till now, you keep asking about how to divorce and whether or not you get to keep your PR card. Then you also said that your wife complained that you're just marrying her for PR. Well is that true or not? You did try to immigrate here once as a skilled worker. You kept talking about divorce and worrying about whether you can keep your PR status. And you keep having marital issues for 3 years, yet not divorcing because you were worried about your PR status.

From the surface it does sound like your wife is a bit of a control freak and emotionally unstable, but at the same time, don't you feel maybe you're part of the reason as well? Because imagine how tough it must be for your wife when her husband only lived with her for a total of 40 days out of 3 years, and instead of staying in Canada to confront their marital issues, the husband instead just chickens out and runs away to the US. It's enough to piss off any spouse.

Also you have another issue and that is you may possibly have not met the permanent residency requirements, thus your PR might be revoked anyway. I noticed in these two posts you seem not so worried about losing your PR now, rather you're now concerned as to how to report your wife to the authorities, because you feel you've managed to secure your own PR right? Well not so fast, because unless you have lived in Canada at least 2 out of 5 years, your PR will be revoked.

Can we report this " Voyou " to the authorities ? how did this guy managed to work in the U.S ?

 

[OhCanada77]

I do have a valid work visa since 2013 to work in the US.

Your whole post is confusing. WHat do you want to report your wife for?
Sounds like divorce proceedings are they way forward for you.
Do you have PR at the moment? (For Canada?) Are you planning on staying in the us?

 

[Sunset0505]

Hi Friends,

My wife sponsored me to Canada after our marriage ceremony. A year later I landed in Vancouver on 6th Feb 2013. I stayed there with her for 1 month and then I went back to join my office in India. My company sent me to Dallas (USA) on 10th March 2013. I requested my company in June/July 2013 to move me Canada location if there is any vacancy. My company transferred me to Toronto in the month of August. Since then my wife (living in Vancouver) became even more abusive and volatile to the extent that I went back to USA. She started asking me to deposit 100,000 CAD in her account as security deposit or promise her to pay for all the household expenses, buy a house, a car and to support her parents in India financially. She said that she will save all her money and won't contribute even a single penny in household expenses. When I refused and reached out to her uncle and parents about this they told me that she doesn't want to live with you until her demands are met.

Listening this I got so disturbed that I resigned from my job and returned to USA and joined a new company. She even started calling my new boss who used to be my ex-colleague.

In 2014, she along with her parents filed false cases against me and my family (staying in India) of Domestic Violence and Dowry to extort money from us.

Please guide me where and which Canadian authority should I report this incident of sponsor trying to extort money in the name of matrimony.

Regards,
Roby

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