Exactly what happened yesterday was my worst nightmare came true.
My toilet blew up and I coulnd't fix it. I asked my fiance who had the day off, to come up and fix it, and bring me two outdoor tables at the same time as I am having a party this weekend. He came up at 12:45, officer said - how long are you staying in Canada, he said only about 3 hours, I am dropping these tables off and then going back.
He was given a yellow slip and told to go inside where he was interviewed for 3 hours!! Then asked to rescind his entry for today until he got his finances in order and health insurance.
I went up to the office at 9pm and called this out as inappropriate and unfair, that's the first time the 6 month thing was mentioned because we weren't at the point yet of him moving up here, because I knew the divorce need time to finalize then our paperwork needed to be sent in, so I didnt want him to come up here and it wasn't processed in time, then he'd have to leave...so we were not ready for him to move yet, but we are planning it.
I need to know what to say to go back to easy cross border 1 or 2 day at a time visits without him being denied or grilled everytime. USA lets me in easily and I have been to Massena more than he's come up here. !!
So a few things for the future and a few hard messages (that are meant to help)...
1) He cannot be bringing things like tables with him - this is an attempt to import a personal belonging. This isn't something a visitor is allowed to do and is a huge red flag. Don't do anything like this again until he has PR. All he should be bringing with him is normal stuff tourists bring (e.g. clothes for a couple of week). Everything else needs to stay in the US. Honestly, a three hour trip to Canada to drop off tables is simply a massive red flag and he's probably lucky he didn't end up with an exclusion order.
2) Don't have him fix your toilet or do anything else around the house (or if he's going to do that - he should never say this at the border). This is working illegally even if you aren't paying him - and a violation of his visitor status in Canada.
3) Don't ever go to the office to call out CBSA. If you want the honest truth, he was appropriately refused based on his behaviour. You need to remember that he does not have the right to enter Canada - he will only have that right once he is a PR. Until then, he can only visit as a tourist and needs to make sure he acts like one - this is a privilege and CBSA is 100% entitled to refuse him entry again if they wish.
He handled that last entry very badly. His reasons for coming to Canada weren't appropriate for a visitor and he was attempting to import a personal belonging. Again, I think he's lucky he didn't end up with an exclusion order (which really would have messed things up for you.) I know this is probably a hard message to hear, but you need to be a lot smarter at the border and educate yourself far better on the rules. My husband is American and went back and forth frequently until we got married and I sponsored him for PR. I've been there. You're taking a lot of risks right now with your behaviour at the border and making poor decisions.
The best way to say something is straight and to the point, which I appreciate in your reply, thank you.
I find it so hard to be without him to begin with. I am so sad that this happened. I hope that he will be able to get in Saturday, if not I will be crying for a week til I can go back to see him. THree -Four months of seeing each other once or twice a week will be agony, terrible agony.
